The boke of Nurture, or Schoole of good maners for men, Seruants, and children, with Stans puer ad mensam. Newly corrected, very necessary for all youth and children [by Hugh Rhodes] |
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For the wayting Seruaunt.
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For the wayting Seruaunt.
If ye will be a Seruingman,with attendaunce doe begin:
Fyrst serue God, then the worlde,
and euer flye from sinne.
Apparell thee after thy degree,
youth should be cleane by kynde:
Pryde and disdayne goes before,
and shamefastnes behynde.
Aquaynte your selfe with honest men,
that are in authorytye:
to auoyde all necessitye
Still search thou must for friendship pure,
and beware of flattery:
With lewde persons I thee counsell,
haue no familyaryty.
Beholde not thy selfe in thy Apparell,
in church, ne in Streete:
To gase on thy selfe men will thinke,
it is a thing vnmeete.
Crye, ne yet speake with to lowd voyce
whereas thou doest walke:
For lyght witted or dronken sure,
men will name thee in talke.
Be not thou slothfull, for it is
the gouernour of all vyce:
Nor be enuyous to any,
for then ye be not wyse.
Please thy friends, delight not in sloth,
that Uyce wasteth goods
It dulleth wits, ranckleth flesh
and palleth ofte fresh bloods.
If you come to another mans house
to sporte, and to playe:
returne, and go your way.
If case thou be aduaunced friend,
and plaste in high degree:
Be lyberall and gentle found,
beloued shalt thou bee.
Be not to liberall nor to scant,
vse measure in eche thing:
To get in one yeare, and spend it in
another, is no lyuing.
It is better to saue somewhat,
with good prouysion:
Then to wish agayne for that is spent,
for that doth breede deuysion.
Measure expence, spend warily,
and flye farre from excesse:
Inough is a feast, more then ynough,
is counted foolishnesse.
A dilligent seruaunt taking payne,
for his mayster truth to show:
No doubt his mayster will consyder,
and agayne for him doe.
A mayster will know where he is,
and sometyme for his pleasure:
to his mayster is a treasure.
A seruaunt not reformable, that
takes to his charge no heede:
Ofte tymes falleth to pouertye,
in wealth he may not byde.
Be manly at neede, begin no quarrell,
in wrong, ne yet in right:
A iust quarrell defendes it selfe,
in wrong doe not fyght.
Forbeare if thou mayst, if any will
stryke, then take thou heede:
Defend thy selfe, the law will aquyte
thee, if thou stand in neede.
A man of his handes with hastynesse,
should at no tyme be fylde:
Auoyde murther, saue thy selfe,
play the man being compelde.
Be seruiceable and cleanly,
and neuer sweare thou oath:
Be wyse, ready, and well aduysed,
for tyme tryeth thy troth:
If case thou be not faythfull found,
and in all thinges trusty.
nor thy selfe honesty.
Be not checkmate with thy mayster,
for one word giue not fower:
Such a seruaunt contynueth to long,
if he passe but one hower.
Few wordes in a seruannt wyse,
deserueth commendation,
Such Seruauntes as be of to muche speeche,
are yll of operation.
Be not to bold with men that be,
aboue thee in degree:
In age, byrth, or substance, learne thou
to handfast honesty.
Take payne in youth, be quick,
attendaunt be and wyse:
Be dilligent, for to detecte,
a seruaunt gyuen to vyce.
Put thou thy mayster to no payne,
by fraude nor fayned subtiltie:
Wyse men will say little and suffer,
to see thy iniquitie.
A man that sayth little, shall perceiue,
by the speeche of another:
perceyue in another.
Gouerne thou well thy tongue and let
thy wordes not mayster thee:
If ye follow wyll, ye are lyke,
ne to thryue beleeue mee.
Obstinacy is follye in,
them that should haue reason:
They that will not knowe howe to
amend, their wits be very geason.
In displeasure forbeare thy fellow,
lay all mallice apart:
Nor meddle not with such as you,
know to be ouerthwart,
A hasty or wilfull Mayster,
that ofte chaungeth seruaunt,
And a seruaunt of fleeting,
lack wit and wysdome I warrant.
Chaunge not ofte thy seruyce,
for it sheweth a seruaunte to light:
He careth for no man, nor none for him
in wrong nor in right.
A plyaunt seruaunt gets fauour,
to his great aduauntage:
easiler to lyue in age.
Use honest pastyme, talke or syng,
or some Instrument vse:
Though they be thy betters,
to heare, they will thee not refuse,
To prate in thy maysters presence,
it is no humanitye:
But to speake when he talketh to thee,
is good curtesye.
For your preferment resorte
to such as may you vauntage:
Among Gentlemen, for their rewards,
to honest dames for maryage.
See your eye be indifferent,
among women that be fayre:
And if they be honest, to them
boldly then doe repayre.
Honest quallityes and gentle,
many men doth aduaunce:
To good maryages trust me,
and their names doth inhaunce.
Of worldly pleasure it is
a treasure to say truth:
bargayne he needes no ruth.
What is most trouble to man,
of all thinges that be lyuing:
A curst wyfe shortneth his lyfe,
and bringeth on his ending.
Women nyse, and not wyse, waketh
men when they should take sleepe:
Lyke a feather in the weather,
of such I take no keepe.
Fulgentius declareth, vpon the
maryage in Cana Galile:
The condicions of men and women,
aparte I will shew ye.
He lykeneth Christ to a good man,
the Authour of verity.
To rule himselfe, and in all thinges,
to obey to man truely.
He lykeneth a good woman, to
the myrrour of humillitye.
In them is roted pacience, sound fayth
loue, and charitye.
Fayth and trust in good women both,
in eche deede, and in woorde:
cleane at bed and at boorde.
Lykened women to ydols, taken
for Gods, yet were Deuils:
Iudge so of women which be corrupte
with such euils.
Women to blame, or yet defame,
I will disprayse none:
Say as ye list, women are yll
to trust, all thinges but one.
Fayre and good are two quallityes,
scantly in one body seene:
Fayrenesse is soone seene, her pacience
and goodnesse is yll to deeme.
For to saue, that a man would haue,
is at large without a keeper:
Who can stay, that will away
or without restraynt let her.
To wed a woman, that is
good, fayre, and eke wyse,
Is to haue ynough for himselfe sure,
and for her as much thryse.
The company of women being yong,
wanton foolish and light,
and doth cleane wast the sight.
Such be yll to please, their harte and
eye is vnsatiable.
An old man, and a yong woman,
to content is vncurable.
When womens wits are mooued,
of reason they take no heede:
To please them agayne, muste bee by
loue, dread, or else fond meede.
Pryde, couetousnes and letchery,
if thou wilt from them flee:
From gay Apparell, treasure, and
fayre women draw thy eye.
Be not to bold in word and deede,
for it is little honesty.
In Chamber with wanton women,
vse no familiarity.
To them tell thou nought, that wil not
beleeue thee at thy worde:
It appeareth by them, their good
wyll they may lyttle aforde.
Of women ye haue herd part, wherby
ye may perceyue my mynde:
and thus I make an ende.
I hold thee wyse and well taught,
I thou arte lyke to be iollye:
That can beware to see the care,
of another mans follye.
Take the myrrour of an honest man,
and marke how well he doth:
Follow his steps, imbrace vertue,
then doest thou well forsooth.
It is better to be poore, and
to lyue in rest and myrth:
Then to be riche with sorrow,
and come of noble byrth.
If thou wilt haue health of body,
euill dyet eschew:
To get a good name,
euill company doe not pursue.
Euill ayres corrupt mans body,
ill company doth the same:
Use good company, thereof
commeth honesty and good fame.
All byrdes doe loue by kynde, that are
lyke of plume and feather.
all kyndes doe draw togyther.
Great diuersytie betweene pryde,
and honesty is seene:
Among the wyse it is soone iudgde,
and knowne what they haue beene.
By condicion and fashion,
all thing sheweth as it is,
Iagged or ragged, prowde or meeke,
wyse men call it excesse.
Many haue cunning and vertue,
without due gouernaunce:
Wo worth reason yll vsed,
for it lacketh remembraunce.
Better to speake little for profyt,
then much for thy payne:
It is pleasure to spend and speake,
but harde to call agayne.
Use thou not hastye anger,
a wyse man will take leasure,
The custome of sodayne mallyce,
will turne to displeasure.
Fyrst thinke, then speake, and then
do all thinges with discretion:
ennemye with prouisyon.
Euill men take great payn to buy Hell
and all for worldly pleasure:
Dearer then good men buy heauen,
for God is their treasure.
Learn or ye be lewde,
follow the proued mans aduyse,
Thou shall perceyue more by his glose
then by the letter is.
Be thou content with fayre rebuke,
and haue thy fault in mynde:
The wyser that thou doest of troth,
the better shalt thou fynde.
If thou bee wyse consyder,
thy friende both in worde and deede:
And thank him that geueth thee cloth,
drinke, meat and also breade.
Turne not thy face lyke to a Churle,
as voyde of all meekenesse:
To thē that do thee good geue thanks
and shew lyke gentlenesse.
Many couet much, and little paynes,
therefore intende to take:
from sloth thou must awake.
Of one thing take good heed, spend not
thy tyme I wish in vayne:
For tyme mispent and ouergone,
cannot be calde agayne.
Seeke thou in youth, and thou shalte fynd
to be one not vntaught:
Wyse or fonde foolish to rule,
or to be set at nought.
Take payne in youth, if case thou wilt,
of men be called wyse:
Or thou must take it in thy age,
or be fraught full of vyce.
Keepe measure euer in happye welth,
a tyme to thee is lent:
Better is it to saue, then so
suffer when all is spent.
To remember before, what wyll fall,
it shall giue thy harte ease:
Fortune doeth ebbe and flowe be sure,
good for wit doth men please.
Lyue iustlye, doe well, and haue well,
let men say what they list:
beware of had I wist.
A Byrd is better in thy hande,
then in Wood two or three:
Leaue not certayne for vncertayne,
my friend I counsell thee.
Take heede betyme if thou be wyse,
for tyme hath no measure:
Prayse goodnesse still, blame euill men,
loue is a lasting treasure.
Better is truth with pouertye,
then ryches are with shame:
Couetousnesse quayleth gentlenesse,
letchery bringeth ill name.
Sufferaunce asswageth yre,
and mendeth thinges amis:
In little medling rest is wonne,
hate stryfe if thou seeke blisse.
Be not hasty in a matter,
but marke thou well the ende,
Be thou not Foe vnto thy selfe,
though another thee offende.
Presume thou not to hye I rid,
least it turne thee to blame:
by reason, flye thou shame.
No maystry is it to get a friend,
but for to keepe him long:
As to thyne owne selfe, so doote
thy friendes eche one among.
My friend where thou art put in trust,
be true in word and deede:
In a little falshood is great shame
in truth is there much meede.
Brable not thou with thy neyghbour,
but let him lyue in rest:
For discorde often tymes constraynes,
thy friendes thee to detest.
Among fooles, there is much stryfe,
disdayne, grudge, and debate:
With wyse men there is rest & peace,
after a blessed rate.
Knowne there is no quyetnesse,
where angry folkes doe dwell:
Ten is nyne to many be sure,
where men be fierce and fell.
Shew gentlenesse to thy seruaunt,
thats willing to amende:
though he doe thee offende.
In mallyce be not vengeable,
as S. Mathewe doth speake,
Due correction is needefull sure,
for blessed are the meeke.
Chyde not very often, for therein
gentlenesse is none:
Prooue and then chuse, of two harmes learne,
alwayes to make but one.
To forbeare where thou mayste ouercome,
is gently still to doe;
For so shalte thou cease mallyce,
and make a friend of thy foe:
A good man doth good, and therein
doth alwayes take great payne:
If his deedes be contrary found,
all that he doeth is vayne.
Correct not faults in other,
and thy selfe do vse the fame:
For so shalt thou be laught to scorne,
and be reprooued with shame.
Fynd thou no fault in discreete men,
of good perseueraunce:
of wilfull ignoraunce.
Controle not so your fellowes faultes,
as ye of cryme were cleare:
But monish him secretlye, and keepe
thy mayster from all yre.
Releeue and comforte other, when
thou ioyste prosperitye:
And thou of other shalt haue helpe,
in thy aduersytye.
If thou be come of noble stocke
and gentle curteous plant:
Thy condicions and behauyour,
will show thee I warrant.
Subdue the euill mynded men,
that order will not byde:
Beware of common grudge and hate,
at euery tyme and tyde.
Ne yet conceaue thou in thy mynde,
that thou canst all thinges doe:
Least in trying somthing thou,
canst not attayne thereto.
A hye mynded man thinketh no wight
worthy to match with him,
yet he is not worth a pin.
Those vnderneath thy gouernaunce,
doe charitably blame:
And vse thou gentle speech eche hower
so shalt thou get good name.
A wyse man will rebuke his fault,
when he is all alone:
And spye it out from tyme to tyde,
when he hath euill done.
Moue no man that is angry,
and will be so to often:
A small sparke kyndles a great fyre,
if it be forste to burne.
To thy fellow be not coyish,
nor haue of him disdayne:
If vnkyndnesse doe happen,
quickly be friendes agayne.
To forbeare in anger is,
the poynt of a friendly leeche,
When the rage is past, men repent,
their euill corrupt speeche.
A wonderfull thing this is to doe,
and easy to be done:
and to follow reason.
For farre more better is it,
to rule, then to be ruled:
Disdayne not therefore gouernaunce,
least your name be defyled.
Loue thou vertue, and hate all vyce,
see that thou no tyme waste:
Spend in measure as thou doest get,
make spare of that thou haste.
Babble not ouer much my friende,
if thou wylt be called wyse:
To speake or prate, or vse much talke,
ingenders many lyes.
A foole will be alwayes teaching,
but will no tyme be taught:
Contrary him in his sayinges,
he setteth thee at nought.
All men be knowen by the workes,
they vse to go about:
A stedfast mans words ye neuer neede
for to suspect, nor doubt.
If ye haue sturdy Sampsons strength
and want reason withall.
selfe will makes you to fall.
Many haue knowledge, and yet lacke,
that should belong thereto:
And some are in authoritye,
that very little good doe.
All pollicie no one man hath,
though he be of hygh science:
One hath great learning, another hath
got in tyme experience.
Cunning with pryde in an officer fell,
is sure a heauy case:
The pore man prowd, the riche a theefe
both of these doe lack grace.
There is a tyme for all things founde,
to be merry and glad:
He that hath cunning without grace,
of troth is but ill clad.
Put not yong men in authority
that are to prowde and lyght:
A man tryed well in youth,
his experience is of might.
Many take much pryde in their owne skill,
and carpe as they were cunning:
makes all not worth a pudding.
A fooles displeasure to a wyse man,
is found profytable:
For his good will is vnstedfast,
his lust is vnsatiable.
Reply not thou agaynst a prowde,
and yll mans tale to much:
For he thinkes of hymselfe bee sure,
no man hath wysedome such.
Better is it to beate a prowde man,
then for to rebuke him:
For he thinkes in his owne conceyte,
he is wyse and very trim.
Stedfastnesse in a man,
aduaunceth his good name:
But to be slow in godly deedes
increaseth a mans shame.
If thou play, game, or sporte,
with thy inferyour by byrth:
Use gentle pastyme, men will then,
commend you in your myrth.
Ueware of subtle craft and guyle,
therewith be not infect.
men will thee soone suspect.
Boast not of bawdinesse for therein,
shalt thou sure be knowne:
To be found letcherous, and thy
yll name will be soone blowne.
A man cleanly arayed, oughte cleane
and pure wordes to preache:
As thou wouldest be cleane in arraye,
so be cleane in thy speeche.
Be not to bolde in your array,
nor yet boast of your goods:
More worth is honesty be sure,
then gawdy veluet hoodes.
To giue reuerence to thy Elders,
be thou still glad and fayne:
Or else they will haue, learne thou this
of thee no small disdayne.
Reporte no slaunder, ne yet shew,
the fruites of flattery:
It shewes that mallyce raygns in thee
as voyde of curtesye.
Meddle little, and thou shalt fynde,
therein a double ease:
thou highly God shalt please.
Aduise well what thou speakest friend,
to whome, where, how, and whan:
So shalt thou get thee perfyte loue,
and proue a wittye man:
Thinke or thou speake, for feare of yre,
take good heede at the least:
By thy speeche men will perceyue
thee to be man or beast.
Prease not thy selfe if thou be wyse,
to haue the soueraygntye:
Good deeds and wisdom shal thee get
in tyme authoritye.
At thyne owne conceite laugh not
nor make thou any game:
Auoyde thou slaunderous baudy tales
for why they purchase shame.
Laugh not to much I thee aduyse,
therein take thou no pleasure:
Much laughing friend, some men doe say.
a cockscombe doth procure.
To sad, it is not best,
the meane is aduauntage:
is wysedome and no rage.
Or ye begin marke well the ende,
and thereof take good heede:
A good forethought is founde a friend,
at euery tyme of neede.
Be not hasty aunswere to giue,
before thou it debate:
Lest thou repent thee afterwardes,
when it will be to late.
Get ere thou spend, then shalt thou bid
thy friendly friend good morrowe:
But if thou spent before thou get,
thou shall feele much sorrowe.
A byrd in hand as some men say,
is worth ten flye at large:
He that may be free and will not,
take vpon him no charge.
Disprayse not any man in absence,
nor yet be vengeable:
For small faultes small correction,
is moste commendable.
Refraine from wrath, and correct thou
with meekenesse at leysure:
bringeth thee displeasure.
Know honest men haue honest wordes
early and also late:
Before thy equals and thy betters,
playe thou not friend check mate.
At thy friendes house or else where,
see that by night or day:
When the reckoning is past and payde
then boldly go thy way.
When thou borrowest keepe thy day,
though it be to thy payne:
Then shalt thou the sooner borrow,
of thy lender agayne.
Loke thou keepe promyse and thy day,
thereon haue thou thy thought:
Or else of thee and thyne know well,
it may be dearer bought.
Some men to borrow euer loue,
and neuer pay agayne:
Euer needy still some be found,
putting their friendes to payne.
Alway to begge and borrow still,
cannot long tyme indure:
themselues to be most sure.
No heauynesse its to a man,
that nothing hath to lose:
Great greefe to them that plenty hath
so sayth the common glose.
If that thou spent past thy degree,
thy stock thou soone shalt slake:
Take heede betyme, so you may sleepe,
when other men doe wake.
Past thy degree, couet thou not,
thy port for to mayntayne:
Spend not thy goods to prodigallye,
spend not thy store in vayne.
Looke before thou leape I wish,
more ease thou mayst take:
If that thou leape or thou doe looke,
wysedome will thee forsake.
Good counsayle in thy words to take,
shall thee content and please:
Be comfortable to thy friends,
and to thy selfe wish ease.
Be not mooued if case thy friend,
tell thee thy faultes full playne:
nor his good will disdayne.
A mans wysdome is prooued playne,
when he is ill sayd vnto:
To suffer wrong is vertue pure,
fond fooles cannot doe so.
When occasyon comes, thy profyt take,
tyme lasteth not for euer:
Tyme flits away thy welth augments
as pleaseth God the giuer.
If with thy mayster thou wilt speake,
his leysure learne to see:
It were contrary equitye,
that he should wayght for thee.
Some men are euer borrowing found,
wythout respect of tyme:
They gape for their commoditye,
the sieldome wish for thyne.
Use thou gentle condicions friend,
giue the pore of thy good:
Part. thou therof toward their want,
giue them reliefe and fod.
To speake the truth be bold and mylde
for that is very good.
becommeth vyllaines blood.
Mocke thou no man of what estate,
or calling that he be:
For that is the custome of Churles,
voyde of all curtisye.
To ill thy foe doth get to thee,
hatred and double blame,
It is a Christyan propertye,
to hyde thy brothers shame.
A still man is a Castle which,
will him defend from woe:
A busy tongue makes of his friend,
oft tymes his daynfull Foe.
A Gentleman vnstable found,
is deemde a chylde of folly:
A shamelesse lyfe in any man,
declares he is not holly.
A Gentleman should mercy vse,
to set forth his natiuitye:
He should be meeke and curteous,
and full of humanitye.
Pore men must be faythfull,
and obedient in lyuing:
and rygorous bloodshedding.
Keepe grace and godly gouernaunce,
alwayes within thy mynde:
If thou be wanton in youth,
vyce will raygn in age by kynde.
Boast thou not of thy blood ne byrth,
or great soueraignty:
For thy good deedes assure thy selfe,
shall get thee fame and glory.
To one vnknowne to thee my friende,
at no tyme shew thy mynde:
For some men be tickle of tongue,
and play the blabs by kynde.
To men not acquaynted giue,
no credence nor no trust:
Some sortes will customably lye,
but from such flye thou must.
To vtter greefe doth ease the mynde,
as wyse men seeme to say:
But faythfull friendes at no tyme will
their friendes great greefe bewraye.
If other men record thy saying,
it may seeme somewhat true:
some states to wayle and rew.
Keepe counsayle if to Prynce ne Land
they bring no greefe nor payne.
Cotatche ech trustlesse traytor see,
thou faythfull doe remayne.
Be friendly with the faythfull man,
but yet flye from flatterye:
In all my lyfe I could scant fynde,
one wight true and trusty.
Fyrst seke a friend, then proue thou him
that thou wilt trust vnto:
So shalt thou know in tyme of neede,
what he for thee will do.
If case thou haue a trusty friend,
chaunge him not for a new:
They that trust vnto themselues,
be no friendes faythfull true.
Heare thou thy enimyes tale I wishe,
euen to the latter end:
And refuse not the sweete rebuke,
of him that is your friend.
If thy friend come vnto thy house,
for loue or pure amitie:
friendly familiaritye.
If giftts thou receyue of any wyght,
well ponder their degree:
A kynde pore mans harty rewarde,
is worth the other three.
Of whomsoeuer thou receyuest,
giue somewhat friend agayne:
For empty fystes, men vse to say,
cannot the Hawke retayne.
If that a straunger syt thee neare,
see thou make him good cheare:
For so he may reporte thy name,
be sure both farre and and neare.
Retayne a straunger after his
estate and degree:
Another tyme may happen he,
may doe as much for thee.
Of secrete and close matters speake,
not if thou wilt be sage:
Talke discretelye, let not thy tongue,
go clack in an outrage.
Honest men be euer content
with such as they doe fynde:
vse thou a quyet mynde.
Commaund not in another house,
nor practyse to contende:
So shalt thou be esteemed wyse,
and men will thee commende.
A man that is a niggard churle
no tyme is lyberall:
He commeth not of gentle blood
that to his coyne is thrall.
Sit thou not in the highest place,
where the good man is present:
But gyue him place, his maners marke
thou with graue aduysement.
Regard honest condicions friende,
where ere thy steppes be bent:
Or else some men with thee wyll not,
assured be content.
In sport and play with man and wyfe,
with yongman, mayde and chylde:
Be thou still meeke and honest to,
gentle and also mylde.
Suspect no counsayle if it be,
agaynst thee neuer moued:
are often tymes deceyued.
If thou come to a strange mans house,
knock ere that thou go in:
Ne yet presume thou not to farre,
though he bee of thy kin.
If case ye be of message sent,
know you the same throughout:
Then mayst thou speake boldly be sure,
and neuer stand in doubt.
Delight to reade good Godly bookes,
and marke the meaning well:
Thereof comes vertue, knowledge,
pure wysedome, and sweete counsell.
Here of this matter thus my friend,
I seeme to make an ende:
He that doth haunt to wysdoms bowre
remaynes his countreys friend.
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