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6. CONTINENCE.

Continence differs from chastity in being entire restraint from sexual indulgence under all circumstances, while chastity is only restraint from unlawful indulgence. Many of the observations on the subject of "Chastity" apply with equal force to continence. The causes of incontinence are the same as those of unchastity. The same relation also exists between mental and physical continence as between mental and physical chastity.

The subject of continence evidently has a somewhat wider scope than that of chastity, as generally understood; but as we have considered the latter subject so fully, we shall devote less space to this, leaving the reader to make the application of such preceding remarks as reason may suggest to him are equally appropriate here.

Without stopping to consider the various circumstances under which absolute continence is expedient, or desirable, or morally required, we will proceed at once to examine the question, Is continence harmful?

Continence Not Injurious. — It has been claimed by many, even by physicians, and though with slight show of reason, that absolute continence, after full development of the organs of reproduction, could not be maintained without great detriment to health. It is needless to enumerate all the different arguments employed to support this position, since they are, with a few exceptions, too frivolous to deserve attention. We shall content ourselves chiefly with quotations from acknowledged authorities, by which we shall show that the popular notions upon this subject are wholly erroneous. Their

general acceptance has been due, without doubt, to the strong natural bias in their favor. It is an easy matter to believe what agrees well with one's predilections. A bare surmise, on the side of prejudice, is more telling than the most powerful logic on the other side.

"We know that this opinion is held by men of the world, and that many physicians share it. This belief appears to us to be erroneous, without foundation, and easily refuted."[3] [3] Mayer.

The same writer claims "that no peculiar disease nor any abridgement of the duration of life can be ascribed to such continence." He proves his position by appealing to statistics, and shows the fallacy of arguments in support of the contrary view. He further says, —

"It is determined, in our opinion, that the commerce of the sexes has no necessities that cannot be restrained without peril."

"A part has been assigned to spermatic plethora in the etiology of various mental affections. Among others, priapism has been attributed to it. In our opinion, this malady originates in a disturbance of the cerebral nerve power; but it is due much less to the retention of sperm than to its exaggerated loss; much less to virtuous abstinence than to moral depravity."

There has evidently been a wide-spread deception upon this subject. "Health does not absolutely require that there should ever be an emission of semen, from puberty to death, though the individual live a hundred years; and the frequency of involuntary nocturnal emissions is an indubitable proof that the parts, at least,

are suffering under a debility and morbid irritability utterly incompatible with the general welfare of the system."

Continence does not Produce Impotence. — It has been declared that strict continence would result in impotence. The falsity of this argument is clearly shown by the following observations: —

"There exists no greater error than this, not one more opposed to physiological truth. In the first place, I may state that I have, after many years' experience, never seen a single instance of atrophy of the generative organs from this cause. I have, it is true, met the complaint; but in what class of cases does it occur? — It arises, in all instances, from the exactly opposite cause, abuse; the organs become worn out, and hence arises atrophy. Physiologically considered, it is not a fact that the power of secreting semen is annihilated in well-formed adults leading a healthy life, and yet remaining continent. No continent man need be deterred by this apocryphal fear of atrophy of the testes, from living a chaste life. It is a device of the unchaste, a lame excuse for their own incontinence, unfounded on any physiological law."[4] [4] Acton.

The eminent Dr. Joseph Hutchinson, of London, states emphatically that impotence is never the result of continence. It is unquestionably true, however, that serious injury may result from prolonged and ungratified sexual excitement, often greater than from frequent gratification in a normal way; nevertheless, this is no apology for incontinence, as the troublesome excitement is not a physiological condition, but is the result of a bad

mental state, the mind being allowed to run upon sensual subjects, which is, beyond question, mentally and morally, as well as physically, wrong. Sexual excitement arising from constipation of the bowels, or from any form of local disease, is a morbid condition which is aggravated rather than relieved by gratification. Hence a morbid desire for sexual gratification is under no circumstances an apology for indulgence.

A Hint from Lower Animals. — The truth of these statements has been amply confirmed by experiments upon animals, as well as by the experience of some of the most distinguished men who have ever lived, among whom may be mentioned Sir Isaac Newton, Kant, Paschal, Fontenaille, and Michael Angelo. These men never married, and lived continent lives. Some of them lived to a very great age, retaining to the last their wonderful abilities. In view of this fact, there is certainly no danger that any young man will suffer injury by the restraining of his passions within the limits of divine and natural law.

The complaint is made by those whose lives have been far otherwise than continent, that abstinence occasions suffering from which indulgence gives relief. The writer just referred to (Acton) further says that when such a patient consults a medical man, "he should be told — and the result would soon prove the correctness of the advice — that attention to diet, gymnastic exercise, and self-control will most effectually relieve the symptoms."

Difficulty of Continence. — Some there are who urge that self-denial is difficult; that the natural promptings are imperious. From this they argue that it cannot but

be right to gratify so strong a passion. "The admitted fact that continence, even at the very beginning of manhood, is frequently productive of distress, — is often a struggle hard to be borne, still harder to be completely victorious in, — is not to be at all regarded as an argument that it is an evil."[5] [5] Acton.

If rigid continence is maintained from the first, the struggle with the passions will not be nearly so severe as after they have once been allowed to gain the ascendency. On this point, the following remarks are very just: —

"At the outset, the sexual necessities are not so uncontrolled as is generally supposed, and they can be put down by the exercise of a little energetic will. There is, therefore, as it appears to us, as much injustice in accusing nature of disorders which are dependent upon the genital senses, badly directed, as there would be in attributing to it a sprain or a fracture accidentally produced."[6] [6] Mayer.

It would be just as reasonable to offer the appetite for liquor as an apology for its use, and a good evidence of the physiological necessity for alcoholic stimulants, as to argue that sexual indulgence is a physiological need for the individual, whereas no such necessity exists unless produced by erotic thoughts or other conditions within the individual's own control, or by morbid or diseased conditions which require medical treatment for their removal, and which will be aggravated, rather than alleviated, by the gratification of the desire for indulgence.

Helps to Continence. — As already indicated, and as every individual with strong passions knows, the war-

fare with passion is a serious one if a person determines to lead a continent life. He needs the help of every aid that he can gain. Some of these may be named as follows: —

The Will. — A firm determination must be formed to lead a life of purity; to quickly quench the first suggestions of impurity; to harbor no unchaste desire; to purge the mind of carnal thoughts; in short, to cleave fast to mental continence. Each triumph over vicious thoughts will strengthen virtue; each victory won will make the next one easier. So strong a habit of continence may be formed that this alone will be a bulwark against vice.

Diet. — He who would keep in subjection his animal nature, must carefully guard the portal to his stomach. The blood is made of what is eaten. Irritating food will produce irritating blood. Stimulating foods or drinks will surely produce a corresponding quality of blood. Irritating, stimulating blood will irritate and stimulate the nervous system, and especially the delicate nerves of the reproductive system, as previously explained. Only the most simple and wholesome food should be eaten, and that only in such moderate quantities as are required to replenish the tissues. The custom of making the food pungent and stimulating with condiments, is the great, almost the sole, cause of gluttony. It is one of the greatest hinderances to virtue. Indeed, it may with truth be said that the devices of modern cookery are most powerful allies of unchastity and licentiousness. This subject is particularly deserving of careful, candid, and studious attention, and only needs such investigation to demonstrate its soundness.

Exercise. — Next to diet as an aid to continence,

perhaps of equal importance with it, is exercise, both physical and mental. It is a trite proverb, the truth of which every one acknowledges, that "Satan finds some mischief still for idle hands to do," and it is equally true that he always has an evil thought in readiness to instill into an unoccupied mind. A person who desires to be pure and continent in body and mind, must flee idleness as he would the devil himself; for the latter is always ready to improve upon the advantages afforded by an idle moment, an hour given to reverie

We have the strongest testimony from the most eminent physicians in regard to the efficacy of exercise in overcoming abnormal sexual desires. Mr. Acton relates the following statement made to him by a gentleman who has become distinguished in his profession: —

" `You may be surprised, Mr. Acton,' said he, `by the statement I am about to make to you, that before my marriage I lived a perfectly continent life. During my university career, my passions were very strong, sometimes almost uncontrollable, but I have the satisfaction of thinking I mastered them; it was, however by great efforts. I obliged myself to take violent physical exertion; I was the best oar of my year, and when I felt particularly strong sexual desire, I sallied out to take my exercise. I was victorious always, and I never committed fornication. You see in what vigorous health I am; it was exercise alone that saved me.' "

Says Carpenter, on the same subject, in a text-book for medical students, "Try the effect of close mental application to some of those ennobling pursuits to which your profession introduces you, in combination with vigorous bodily exercise, before you assert that the appetite is unrestrainable, and act upon that assertion."

Walking, riding, rowing, and gymnastics are among the best modes of physical exercise for sedentary persons; but there is no better form of exercise than working in the garden. The cultivation of small fruits, flowers, and other occupations of like character, really excel all other modes of physical exercise for one who can engage in them with real pleasure. Even though distasteful at first, they may become very attractive and interesting if there is an honest, persevering desire to make them so.

The advantages of exercises of this kind are evident. 1. They are useful as well as healthful; while they call into action a very large number of muscles by the varied movements required, the expenditure of vital force is remunerated by the actual value of the products of the labor; so that no force is wasted; 2. The tillage of the soil and the dressing of vines and plants bring one in constant contact with nature in a manner that is elevating and refining, or at least affords the most favorable opportunities for the cultivation of nobility and purity of mind, and elevated principles.

Exercise carried to such excess as to produce exhaustion, is always injurious. The same is true of mental labor as of physical exercise. Plenty of sleep, and regular habits of retiring and rising, are important. Dozing is bad at any time; for it is a condition in which the will is nearly dormant, though consciousness still lingers, and the imagination is allowed to run wild, and often enough it will run where it ought not. Late study, or late hours spent in any manner, is a means of producing general nervous irritability, and sexual excitement through reflex influence.

The author has made these suggestions to a large number of young men who were suffering from the results of sexual excesses, and whose lives had been made wretched by the clamorings of artificially stimulated passions, and has frequently witnessed the best results. Not a little earnestness and moral courage were required on the part of the patient, however, to secure a rigid carrying out of the principles here laid down. The fascination of a passion long indulged, is likely to gain the mastery over any man who is not thoroughly in earnest to secure a physical as well as a mental and moral reform. But one who will engage earnestly and persistently in the effort, will find himself uniformly successful in conquering the clamorings of a depraved instinct, and each effort will give him new courage, and add to his ability to win future victories.

Bathing. — A daily bath with cool or tepid water, followed by vigorous rubbing of the skin with a coarse towel and then with the dry hand, is a most valuable aid. The hour of first rising is generally the most convenient time. How to take different kinds of baths is explained in other works devoted to the subject.[7] General and local cleanliness are indispensable to general and local health. [7] See "Uses of Water," "Home Hand-Book of Domestic Hygiene and Rational Medicine," and other works by the author.

Religion. — After availing himself of all other aids to continence, if he wishes to maintain purity of mind as well as physical chastity, — and one cannot exist long without the other, — the individual must seek that most powerful and helpful of all aids, Divine grace. If, in the conflict with his animal nature, man had only to contend

with the degrading influences of his own propensities the battle would be a serious one, and it is doubtful whether human nature alone — at least in any but rare cases — would be able to gain the victory; but in addition to his own inherent tendencies to evil, man is assailed at every point by unseen agencies that seek to drag him down and spoil his soul with lust. These fiendish influences are only felt, not seen, from which some argue that they do not exist. Such casuists must find enormous depths for human depravity. But who has not felt the cruel power of these unseen foes? Against them, there is but one safe, successful weapon, — "the blood of Christ, which cleanseth from all sin."

The struggling soul, beset with evil thoughts, will find in prayer a salvation which all his force of will, and dieting, and exercising will not, alone, insure him. Yet prayer alone will not avail; faith and works must always be associated. All that one can do to work out his own salvation, he must do; then he can safely trust in God to do the rest, even though the struggle seems almost a useless one; for when the soul has been long in bondage to concupiscence, the mind a hold of foul and lustful thoughts, a panorama of unchaste imagery, these hateful phantoms will even intrude themselves upon the sanctity of prayer, and make their victim mentally unchaste upon his knees. But Christ can pity even such; and these degraded minds may yet be pure if, with the psalmist, they continue to cry with a true purpose and unwavering trust, "Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." "Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; wash me and I shall be whiter than snow."

At the first suggestion of an evil thought, send up a mental prayer to Him whose ear is always open. Prayer and impurity are as incompatible as oil and water. The pure thoughts that sincere prayer will bring, displace the evil promptings of excited passion. But the desire for aid must be sincere. Prayer will be of no avail while the mind is half consenting to the evil thought. The evil must be loathed, spurned, detested.

It would seem almost unnecessary to suggest the impropriety of resorting to prayer alone when sexual excitability has arisen from a culpable neglect to remove the physical condition of local excitement by the means already mentioned. Such physical causes must be well looked after, or every attempt to reform will be fruitless God requires of every individual to do for himself all that he is capable of doing; to employ every available means for alleviating his sufferings.